3-18-08
in typical nameless style, there were complications after surgery (of course there were!), but things have finally settled down and I'm feeling real good. I am hopeful and optimistic.....keep your fingers crossed, 'k?.....
I need your help with a problem
I have found out that my nephew has a daughter
and apparently, he isn't involved in her life at all
I know he went to court at one point (probably for child support)
he is probably making those payments
(no mention was made of financial neglect, but the 18 year old mom is dirt poor)
his dad (my brother) is an attorney....but I dunno if he knows about it
I don't think he could and not claim her, but who the heck knows?
his mother (my EX-sister in law) is insane...literally
I have no idea if she knows or not...
I would not be surprised if she did and didn't care
I know for a fact no one else in my family knows
I need your help in deciding what to do?
Do I tell my brother? Do I contact the baby's mother?
this is agonizing
I need your help with a problem
I have found out that my nephew has a daughter
and apparently, he isn't involved in her life at all
I know he went to court at one point (probably for child support)
he is probably making those payments
(no mention was made of financial neglect, but the 18 year old mom is dirt poor)
his dad (my brother) is an attorney....but I dunno if he knows about it
I don't think he could and not claim her, but who the heck knows?
his mother (my EX-sister in law) is insane...literally
I have no idea if she knows or not...
I would not be surprised if she did and didn't care
I know for a fact no one else in my family knows
I need your help in deciding what to do?
Do I tell my brother? Do I contact the baby's mother?
this is agonizing
posted by nameless to protect the innocent at 11:35 AM
2 Comments:
Eek. That's a toughie. I'm unsure what I would do. Can you talk to your nephew and give him the opportunity to tell your bro before you do?
tough one. i guess i would, depending on your relationship with your nephew, talk to him first. since you already knew he had a daughter maybe you can ask him how she is...then let him lead you into a discussion if that's what he want. if he says he doesn't know...ask why. if he says she's fine, say you would like to meet her. everything kind of depends on his reaction. just get him talking without telling him what he should be doing. BUT whatever his problem is for not seeing the child, it should be known that the child is not the one at fault...his main concern should be her. if he didn't want kids, well he should have kept it in his pants, but since she is here, in addition to financial assistance, his daughter needs a father. time to be an adult.
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